Healthy and Successful Ways To Discipline Your Child
As a parent, it's your job to teach your children to behave properly. It's an ongoing process and will take some time. If you have a child that frequently demonstrates negative behavior, it's going to take even longer. As an adult you'll have to keep calm and find positive healthy ways to discipline your child.
Here Are Some Proven Strategies That Work
When your child is giving you a difficult time, misbehaving, throwing a temper tantrum, or not listening to you, you should talk to your toddler and you can try these tips for some success:
This method will work well if your child breaks a specific rule.
Children from ages 2 through 5 respond best to this method of discipline. Here are the steps to prepare for in a timeout.
1. Select an area for the timeout. This area should have no distractions such as television, radio etc. Keep this area very boring. Remember, your goal is to remove your child from a situation and give them a time to decompress and stop said behavior.
2. Set rules beforehand. Decide which rules will have timeout as the consequence. Let your child know that if they continue said behavior they will have to go to timeout. Make sure they completely understand.
3. Set a time limit. Start a timer when your child enters timeout and let your child know that until the bell rings, they are in time out.
Some parents invest in a specific timer for this purpose.
Generally one minute of time out for each year of your child's age is appropriate.
Example: if you have a 5 year old he or she would get 5 minutes in timeout. If you're dealing with a 4 year old, it would be 4 minutes of time out. If they misbehave during timeout, let them know you'll have to reset the timer.
Take Away Privileges
Perhaps your child has decided not to cooperate. Then maybe it's time to take away something they like such as a favorite toy, electronic device like an iPad, or an activity.
Here are some guidelines for this disciplinary plan.
1. Select something that is a favorite toy or activity to withhold. This item should correspond to the behavior that is being displayed.
2. Consider your child's age. If your child is under 6 years of age the punishment is more effective done immediately in lieu of waiting.
Don't make a child wait ("just wait til your father gets home") as this confuses children when too much time has passed and they can't remember what they did.
3. Follow through with what you say or your child gains the upper hand.
4. Never deny a child anything that they need such as a trip to the bathroom, food, water, sleep or your love.
More Effective Ways To Discipline Your Child
There are always going to be days where you feel as if you're about to pull your hair out. Take a step back and a deep breath and consider these ideas to help you avoid further issues of frustration.
1. Don't give in to your child no matter how mad they get. If you give in, you're showing them that the screaming, tantrum or whatever the behavior paid off.
2. Always be consistent with rules that are set. If a child can do it one day and not the next it's confusing and they misunderstand.
Leave Spankings Out
Spanking is not now, nor has it ever been, an effective way to punish a child.
Many were spanked as children and turned out fine, however, today's research shows that negative behavior from adults is often present in those who were spanked as children.
Adults who were spanked are often more prone to the following:
- Abusing (hitting) spouses or children
- Depression and anger issues
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Participating in violent crimes
When you spank a child, you teach them that it's okay to cause harm (pain or bruising) to others even though you love them. Nothing could be further from the truth and more families have learned this the hard way than any other lesson.